Choosing High Vibrational Music

high vibration musicAs you grow and heal, you may find that some of the music you used to listen to doesn’t appeal to you as much. The reason is that you are raising your vibration, and music with a lower vibration is making you feel irritated or uncomfortable. To support your healing, it’s important to seek out music that has a higher vibration. But what does that sound like?

A few years ago, we had the good fortune to see Andre Rieu and his orchestra at the Rose Garden. He is a fine example of a musician who works in a higher vibration because he infuses all that he does with his own joy. Watching him perform, I knew that this man was a total mush. He’s happy, he’s joyful, he likes to have fun, and he probably cries when he watches a sad movie. It’s no wonder he was drawn to Johann Strauss. Honestly, there are few forms of music more joyful than a waltz. It would take a determined grouch not to feel uplifted by hearing one. When Andre played “The Blue Danube,” people got up and danced in the aisles.

Of course, Andre plays more than just waltzes. During the course of the evening, we heard everything from classical pieces to movie themes and popular songs. At one point, he played “America the Beautiful,” and the older gentleman standing next to me wiped tears from his eyes afterward: it brought forth his love of his homeland. A rendering of “Amazing Grace,” complete with bagpipe, also brought tears to many eyes, as it often does. You don’t have to subscribe to any particular religion or spirituality to feel the depth of God’s love for all of us, and how affecting that truly is.

By the end of the evening, balloons had fallen on the audience, and everyone was dancing and playing with the balloons while the orchestra played on. In short, the audience was behaving like children. In the span of two brief hours, music had taken us back to our child selves. We danced and sang along with the abandon of three-year-olds. Now that is music of a higher vibration!

Emotion is the Key

None of this means that you are destined to listen only to classical music or Enya for the rest of your days. Not all classical music has a high vibration, just as not all rock or pop has a low one. The trick is to learn to discern for yourself. The key to a song’s vibration is emotion. Emotion is a very powerful energy. When combined with music, it has a definite effect on your mind, mood, and sense of well-being. Angry or depressive music can fuel these same emotions in you. Likewise, calm or joyful music can produce these feelings in you as well. And of course, there’s a lot of emotion in between, some of which is helpful, and some of which can be harmful.

When listening to any music, you should tune in to how it makes you feel. This doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with the lyrics, however. For example, there is nothing wrong with listening to some sad songs. Sad songs say so much, as Elton said. And a few swear words are not necessarily an indicator that you should drop the CD in the trash, either. No, you have to tune into the energy of the music. This takes some practice.

You can really love an artist’s music, but if they have an overly cynical world view or a depressive personality, this energy may be in their music and will affect you negatively. On the other hand, this doesn’t mean that an artist has to live like a saint and be perfectly healed. Many artists have personal struggles and still manage to infuse love and joy in their music. Human beings are multi-faceted, and we all experience the range of emotions, positive and negative.

How Does it Make You Feel?

The next time you’re listening to your favorite music, ask yourself how you feel. Do you feel sad? Sad is not a bad feeling. Some of the most beautiful music ever written tells a sad story that can make you weep a river of tears. And this is OK—unless you’re wallowing in sad music because you’re depressed. There should be a balance in all things.

Likewise, however, some music makes you feel happy or joyful. This is my favorite kind. Artists like Neil Diamond, the Beach Boys, and John Denver are masters at expressing joy in their music. And Beethoven’s “Ode to Joy” speaks for itself.

Of course, most music falls into a vast “in between” area of complex emotion. Determining how you feel when you hear it may take some time. For example, it’s possible for a song to be uplifting, critical, gritty, and hopeful, all at once. For me, U2 and Bob Dylan fall into this category.

Problematic music will make you feel angry, depressed, or hopeless. These are all indicators of a lower vibration, and you should avoid it. Just as a joyful song can make you feel like a happy three-year-old again, a lower vibrational song will only serve to make you feel worse about yourself and your life. With practice, however, you can soon determine whether an album belongs in your collection or not. Follow your own inner guidance.

I also want to encourage you to check out a lot of the new musicians out there. Many of them are doing good work at a higher vibration, as our crystal and rainbow kids grow up. You may not hear them on the radio, unfortunately. Some artists who are less well known sell through sites such as Many may only perform locally as they struggle to get started. Keep your ears—and your heart—open and ask for good music to come into your life. Music can be very healing, and when it is, it’s a blessing in our lives.

You’re Not in Control

June 17, 2009 protest on Krimkhan Street in Tehran

June 17, 2009 protest on Krimkhan Street in Tehran

Most people try to control their world to some degree. We do whatever we think will make us feel secure, safe, and happy. Driven by the allure of safety and order, we believe that we can control our environment, our jobs, the people around us, and even society or the world at large. This belief, however, is an illusion that only serves to mask inner pain, constant worry, low self-esteem, and a deep-seated unhappiness in ourselves.

Control is an illusion for all of us, because of course we have control over practically nothing. It’s worth repeating:  we are not in control. Our egos will attempt to argue the point, but it’s useless. The only things we can control are the choices we make and how we react to situations. That’s it.

We are not in control of the other drivers on the road. We are not in control of whether our boss likes us. We are not in control of who our children are; we can’t even control whether they take a nap or not. We can provide guidelines and discipline, but our kids will be who they are and make their own choices, ultimately. And we cannot “prevent” so-called bad experiences from happening to us because, in the divine order of things, we need these experiences to learn and grow. However, we do have control over how we react to these experiences and deal with them.

For example, we can decide to be so irked with that guy who cut us off on the turnpike that it ruins our day. Which only hurts…us. Or we can shrug it off and let it go. We can decide that a medical challenge means that our life is over. Or we can find the gift in the experience and choose to live each moment to its fullest, regardless of the outcome. We can choose to worry and be upset, or we can choose to be positive and make the most of what’s been given to us.

Governments around the world are realizing how little control they have, as the people—awake at last—take to the streets and demand their rights. This doesn’t prevent any government from trying to maintain control, however. Many governments throughout history have used violence in an attempt to maintain power and control. Tiananmen Square, the Jallianwala Bagh Massacre in India, Bloody Sunday in Northern Ireland.  It can happen anywhere, including the U.S.:  the National Guard killed four peaceful protesters and wounded nine others in the Kent State shootings on May 4, 1970. In the summer of 1921, coal miners attempting to unionize fought the Battle of Blair Mountain against not only company men, but also area deputies and federal troops. President Warren G. Harding authorized the use of Army bombers, and World War I era gas and explosive bombs were used against the miners. Ultimately, however, the government failed to maintain the status quo, and this tragedy, along with others from the same era, eventually led to the enactment of reasonable labor laws in the U.S. Modern governments, no doubt, will also learn—again—how little they control.

Governments cannot control people when they choose to take their power. Nor can it control the economy or the markets. The most brilliant Ivy League financial mind cannot even predict with any real certainty what the markets will do, and all attempts at controlling it are feeble manipulations of what is, in truth, a chaotic system that responds to the emotional states of human beings. You might as well herd cats instead.

And of course, we can never control another human being. You can’t “force” democracy onto someone, even if you think it will make them happier in the end. We can create a temporary illusion of control at gunpoint, but most people will say anything when a gun is pointing at their head. To win the mind, one must win the heart, and even then, each person makes their own sovereign choices at the end of the day. You may earn some influence, but you will never have control.

Why do we have the need to control things we can’t? The issue is largely one of TRUST—the lack of it. A control freak does not trust anyone. Some people are so distrustful of even their spouse and children that they feel like they have to do everything themselves—because no one else in the family “does it right.” The result? A person who has overburdened themselves to the breaking point and can’t accept help—because they don’t trust that anyone else will perform the tasks to their satisfaction.

For people in power, of course, they don’t trust their own power. In fact, they have given it away:  they rely on others to validate their power by doing what they say. In short, they have given their power to the things they wish to control, and they become controlled instead. Let’s take the late Kim Jong-Il, for example. He had no self-esteem, no real self-worth. The only way he has figured out how to feel better about himself is to exercise power over other people, so he did that. He told people what to do, and he felt better. But then he worried about his power. Was it enough? As he squeezed more tightly, he increased his attempts to control the people whose sole purpose was to validate him. But the main issue was still there:  inside, he didn’t really like himself much. He worried that other people didn’t like him, either. He didn’t trust himself to be enough. So he kept looking for external validation. He needed it, just like a drug. And he was controlled by it.

So what should you trust? Yourself, for one. And your own power. Your power has nothing to do with how many people agree with you or jump to attention when you enter the room. Your power is independent of other people and situations. Your power comes from the one Source:  the Universe, God, the Divine, whatever you want to call it.

If you are trying to control your world, then you do not trust this Source. God has our best interests at heart, and always will. God will handle things for our highest good, all the time. The only thing we have to do is actually listen to that small, quiet voice in our hearts that will lead us to our true happiness. The voice of the mind, the ego, shouts down the voice in the heart whenever it can, and most people listen to the ego instead of the heart. They take the safe job that provides security and “pays well” instead of pursuing their dream. Maybe they marry a person of the opposite sex, even though their heart points in another direction. Whatever it is that our heart tells us, that is God saying, “Trust me. Your heart’s desire, your soul’s purpose, lies on this path. Trust me to fulfill your dreams. Trust me to take care of you.”

If you listen to this voice, and if you trust this voice, you will have everything your heart desires, you will make it through any challenge, and you will find your happiness. And when you relinquish control, you will find your freedom as well.

How to Overcome Victim Mentality and Become a Powerful Creator

overcome victim mentality and become a powerful creatorDo you want to be happy? Do you want to feel at peace? Are you tired of struggling? Do you believe that the perfect set of circumstances must appear before any of this is possible? Maybe you’re waiting for a certain time. Maybe you’re waiting for enlightenment to reveal itself to you. Maybe you’re just waiting for the right partner or the right job or the right amount of money in your bank account. Or maybe you’re waiting for the people around you to change. But if you’re waiting for anything, you are living as a victim instead of a powerful creator.

Most people do not believe that they are living as victims, yet they are quick to blame other sources for their problems:  the government, the banks, political parties, “mean people,” the boss, the in-laws, the spouse, or even a physical or mental disability. When you blame your problems on anything, you are choosing the role of victim. You will never be able to change these things, so if you decide that these are the things that must be “fixed” in order to be happy or at peace in your life, then you will always be a long-suffering victim.

You do have another option, however. You can take your power. You can be the Powerful Creator that you already are. But what does this mean?

Being a Powerful Creator doesn’t mean that you can control the Universe. That still won’t work. But you can control your thoughts, choices, and reactions, and those are very powerful creative tools.

When you came into your human body, Victim Mode was the default setting. This was done by design. You came here to pretend for awhile to be everything you ARE NOT:   powerless, weak, separate, you name it. But when you begin to take your power, you are moving back into the consciousness of what you ARE:  a divine, powerful creator, made in the image of God.

To move from Victim to Creator doesn’t require a special date or event. It doesn’t require everyone else to “wake up” at the same moment. All that is needed is for you to shift your consciousness. Don’t wait for an event to live in an ascended world. That world is here NOW. It is available NOW. You can live in it NOW. But you have to take your power to get there.

When you take your power and shift your consciousness, that doesn’t mean that “bad” things will never happen to you. You are still going to face challenges in your life, possibly some very difficult ones. But when you are in your power, you will view them through a different lens and you will choose to handle them differently. Instead of blaming and becoming a victim of circumstance, take a deep breath and ask what Spirit needs of you next. Know that everything happens for a reason, even if that reason is hard to see in the moment. You may never know exactly why some things happen the way they do, but in order to live in your power you must also exercise your Trust in Spirit—or Faith, if you prefer.

Victims blame and react defensively, but Powerful Creators look within for their answers and cultivate Trust—knowing that they will always be led to make the perfect choice if they listen and stop blaming. If you are going to be a Powerful Creator, then you must start living in the moment NOW. Spirit doesn’t guide you yesterday or tomorrow. Spirit is guiding you right now, and in every moment. Stop and listen.

It is a paradox that to be a Powerful Creator you must surrender control. But when you are a Powerful Creator, you take control of yourself and surrender control of everything else. Victims try to control the world around them. They want to change people so that they behave a certain way. They want to change the way the world is. Powerful Creators know that by changing themselves, they ultimately do change the world—but not by force, and not in the way that they may think. The more Powerful Creators there are in the world, the more awakened people there are. And this is how the great shift in consciousness is occurring now.

So I have described how to be a Powerful Creator in logical terms, but living it and breaking old patterns can be difficult. How do you do this? Practice makes perfect.

Pick a day, any day, and wake up and ask, “What does God/Spirit need of me today?” Wait for the answer. Do whatever you hear, and keep asking all day long. When you complete a task, ask again, then wait. The answer could be mundane: go to your dentist appointment. The answer might not make sense: do nothing and just be (a difficult directive if you feel you have 50 things that you should be doing). But do it anyway, whatever you hear. As you practice, you will discover that you are perfectly guided at all times. And when you see that your long to-do list still gets done in a more relaxed, nurturing way, then you will learn to trust what you hear. Building this trust with your inner guidance is more important than I can possibly say in this article. It is vital. It is the key to your power.

When you live in the space of the new consciousness, you may discover that many things that used to bother you no longer affect you in quite the same way. This is because you begin to realize that everything truly is perfect right now. There is a gift in all things, even if you can’t see it yet. This is beautifully illustrated by the Taoist parable of “The Farmer’s Luck,” which is included in the children’s book Zen Shorts by Jon J. Muth

There was once an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years.

One day, his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit.

“Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically.

“Maybe,” the farmer replied.

The next morning, the horse returned, bringing with it two other wild horses.

“Such good luck!” the neighbors exclaimed.

“Maybe,” replied the farmer.

The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown off, and broke his leg.

Again, the neighbors came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.

“Such bad luck,” they said.

“Maybe,” answered the farmer.

The day after that, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army to fight in a war. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by.

“Such good luck!” cried the neighbors.

“Maybe,” said the farmer.

Fearsome Freedom

are americans freeAs Americans, we do not question whether we are free or not. We assume that we are free, by virtue of where we live. And yet, we favor policies that will restrict our freedoms. Paradox? Or self-delusion?

In essence, most people believe in the freedom of all—as long as everyone agrees with their point of view. If you are a religious conservative, you are fine with freedom—unless you are gay and want to marry, or you want universal access to birth control. If you are an atheist, you are fine with freedom—as long as no one ever mentions God. If you are a liberal, you are fine with freedom—unless you want to own a gun. The list of “exceptions” is endless.

In a truly free society, every opinion, every choice, every way of living or being is welcome. There are no boundaries, no exceptions, and no box for true freedom. And this scares the heck out of people.

It’s a given that there is always someone in the world who will challenge your beliefs and your way of thinking. If everyone is truly free to express themselves in their truth, you will readily find someone who will challenge the borders of your box. And that can be truly frightening. We use our boxes to feel safe and secure. We seek out those who will agree with how the box should look to validate our own beliefs. So when someone comes across our path who is living out loud outside of our box, we react with fear.

Fear is the tool of the Ego, and we can probably attribute the source of every problem in the world to this little god. Fear keeps us trapped in our boxes, from where we can judge an “us” and a “them.” Fear encourages us to give our power to those who care about their own interests, rather than the highest good. Fear makes slaves of us all.

Fear is also the author of the great counter-argument to Freedom:  what about those who would kill us? What about murderers, thieves, and abusers? Surely they do not deserve the freedom to do as they please. This is a complex question, and the issue is largely one of context. Should you be free to kill? Most of us agree we should not; however, under certain circumstances, we are currently free to do so. If you are in the military, you are free to kill the enemy. If you are defending your life from another, you are free to kill your assailant. The state is free to kill convicted murderers or those convicted of treason.

Really, this question is about the age-old struggle of the rights of the individual vs. the rights of society. But is it really an issue? The answer is probably best answered by the Wiccan rede:  “An it do no harm, do what thou will.” In a truly free society, the individuals are free to be who they are and how they are, but they must also respect the choices and the existence of others.

In other words, people have the right to exist, whether you agree with them or not. Fear makes people believe that those in opposition should not exist; if the “enemy” no longer exists, frightened people don’t have to be challenged by their beliefs. This is the path of terrorism, genocide, and fascism. “If I can kill it or make it go away, then I won’t have to examine my own beliefs.”

Everyone feels that their beliefs are “right.” If they didn’t, they wouldn’t think them. No one wakes up and decides that they are going to make “wrong” or “bad” decisions all day. Each person operates from their own sense of “rightness,” which may be completely in opposition to someone else’s views. Does that make the other person “wrong?” No, it means that they are both right. And, they are both wrong.

Right and wrong is a matter of perspective. For the farmer, if a thief steals his produce, the farmer may feel anxious that he will not have enough of his crop to feed his own family, store food for the winter, and provide seed for the following season. From the farmer’s perspective, the thief is wrong to benefit from the farmer’s labor and threaten the farmer’s security. The thief, on the other hand, may not have land of his own and may simply be trying to survive and feed his family. From the thief’s perspective, the farmer is wealthy and can afford to share his crop with someone in dire need. In this scenario, there is no right or wrong. In any scenario, there is no right or wrong.

Freedoms are often curtailed because they are considered to be “wrong” (morally, religiously, empirically), while the restriction on these freedoms is hailed as “right.” It is another way of saying, “You are wrong to do this, so we want to stop you from doing it.” This is, quite simply, tyranny. It is also an attempt to control that which cannot be controlled:  the choices of others.

This back and forth, the ritual of “right and wrong,” is as old as duality. The thing is, duality is ending. And with its end comes the birth of True Freedom. Are you ready for that? Are you ready for what that’s going to look like? Are you ready to allow other points of view, other boxes, or even no boxes at all? Are you ready for the infinite possibilities that each of us embodies and can manifest, right here on this earth?

For those of us who thought we believed in “freedom,” the task may be hardest. We haven’t really believed in freedom—there were too many exceptions, which isn’t freedom at all. But freedom is coming. We are each a divine co-creator. We can create whatever we want, be however we want. But we also have a responsibility to the whole, to the highest good of all. This will require us to choose our thoughts carefully. The vibrational shift we are experiencing, the great change that is upon us, right now, is causing our thoughts and choices to manifest at an accelerated rate. Yes, we are free to make choices that do not serve us, or that do not serve the highest good, but we will be held accountable for what we choose, because we will experience the results ourselves.

In the past, many have defied convention to speak their truth and to live their truth. Many of these visionaries were silenced by those who feared their words and their vision. The list is long:  Christ; Joan of Arc; Galileo; Martin Luther King, Jr.; and the many nameless victims, including those accused of witchcraft, heretics, and the politically “inconvenient.” Those days are ending. If you are still trapped in fear, you will suffer, because you believe that you must. But if you can overcome your fear, you will find your freedom, and you will contribute to the freedom of others. As always, it is a choice.

Your Body, the Car

gender not defined by body

Ed Wood in his film “Glen or Glenda”

One year for Halloween, I and my boyfriend at the time decided to cross-dress for a party. He wore a dress, heels, makeup, and hairspray. I slicked my hair back, colored it, created a 5 o’clock shadow with some mascara, and donned a suit and tie. We did a really good job. So good, in fact, that it made a lot of people really uncomfortable. Why is that?

Most people identify with their physical bodies and assume that their body defines who they are. Because of our body, we think that we are white, black, Native American, hispanic, or any other ethnicity you can name. Or we think that we are male or female. Or we believe that we are beautiful or ugly, disabled or not, sick or healthy, weak or strong. Truly, we have limited ourselves by the boundaries of what is just a vehicle to experience the world with.

As with all things, however, there are no gray areas. We may “define” ourselves as male or female, for example, on the basis of a physical representation, but even this distinction is not always easily made. Throughout history, intersex people have walked among us, expressing both male and female physical characteristics. When this occurs in industrialized societies, “corrections” are usually made surgically, with doctors essentially choosing which gender the person will identify as, at least outwardly. As a result, some intersex adults are unhappy with their “assigned” gender and choose to change it in later life.

Of course, a person does not have to be born with an intersex body to feel conflicted about their gender. Anatomy does not always relate to identity. Transsexual, or transgender people are born with a body of one sex, but they identify with the other. Chaz Bono made the decision to change his body’s physical gender to correspond with how he feels inside, with how he expresses himself in the world. Wendy Carlos is another famous person who went through this process in the 1970s. Both are lucky to live in an age where they have the option. In the past, transsexuals could choose to live as the opposite sex, although discovery was a risk if society was intolerant. In the case of Albert D. J. Cashier, born Jennie Irene Hodgers, he lived almost his entire life as a man and even fought in the Civil War. A few people discovered his secret over the years, but it wasn’t until the end of his life, when he was hospitalized with dementia, that his true gender “came out,” and he was forced to wear a dress.

Why should we constrict ourselves on the basis of our outward packaging? Who we are has very little to do with our physical body:  it is what it is. We are born with a given genetic makeup. We can paint our body, pierce it, tattoo it, dress it, and surgically alter it. All of these things are ways in which we attempt to express our true selves externally, and there is nothing wrong with that. After all, it’s fun!

The problems come when we expect people to behave according to their anatomy. Because you’re “a woman,” you should fit in this box, or because you’re “hispanic,” you should fit in that box. Human beings cannot be defined so narrowly. And yet, many have tried and have even enlisted God in their cause.

Historically speaking, God used to have a wife. All ancient cultures understood that there can be no masculine without the feminine, and vice versa. Creation involves both kinds of energy, and God is the ultimate Creator. In the ancient world, the Creator was expressed in a way that people could relate to:  in the bodies of a man and a woman. Eventually, however, our spiritual leaders talked about a single creative force, a single God. But people still viewed this creative force as external to them, so they again chose to view God as having a body. Now God was male, a father without the feminine principle.

In the Christian book of Genesis, it states that “God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.” The first issue we have here is language. A lot of—maybe all—human language uses gender. So some may interpret this statement to mean that a separate male god with a body created men with a similar body. He created women, too, but it’s not clear what the prototype for their bodies was. The problem with this point of view is that it limits God to a body and completely ignores the spirit.

“We are spirits in the material world,” Sting told us in song. God is not external at all. We are not separate from God. God does not have a body. We are certainly “made in God’s image,” however. We are energy. We are co-creators, endowed with the same power and creative ability as our Creator. In our “natural state,” we don’t have a body at all. We are unlimited. We are light.

So is the body unimportant? The body is our material home while we are here, and as such, it deserves our love and care. But we must understand that its importance does not—cannot—eclipse the importance of the spirit within. It doesn’t matter how we choose to express our spirit outwardly. We are all here to express the God consciousness in our own unique way, no matter what that looks like.

We do, as a whole, have some healing to do with regard to our bodies. We focus a lot of fear and hate on what is basically a vehicle, something that moves us around. Hating someone on the basis of their genetics is like hating a Chevrolet for being a Chevrolet. Inside, we are all male and female, we are race-less, we have no “one” sexuality, and we are all infinitely, indelibly beautiful and perfect. We know this; we have only forgotten. That’s all healing is:  remembering who we are.

Who is Right?

right wrong debate

The Cheshire Cat and Alice

Recent events in our world have caused huge divisions among people, and most of us choose a side. We believe that we have chosen the “right” side, which must mean that the other side is “wrong.” But no one’s right if everybody’s wrong, to quote Buffalo Springfield. By choosing a side, we give energy to negativity—even though our “side” may be saying, “Hey, let’s have world peace, let’s not attack any one, let’s not return violence with violence, let’s help those who are less fortunate.” And it’s okay to believe in that; that can be your truth. Believing in the possibility of world peace is not a problem in itself.

Many people say that they want world peace and harmony, and yet they feed conflict. It isn’t obvious at the time. It’s done unconsciously, and it happens when we mentally choose a side and enter into the energetic push/pull of duality and division, which we do as naturally as waking up in the morning. But by taking a side, we devalue other human beings and pass judgment. We say, “You are wrong, because you are advocating something that I really don’t like.” And when that something is violence, war, or even lack of health care coverage, it can be really hard not to choose sides. However, in choosing sides, we create a division within ourselves and allow anger to fester. We can’t promote peace with anger; it just can’t be done. So now, instead of being peaceful, we become angry and project that anger onto others. In short, we become part of the problem.

Anger and the drive to take sides can be healed, but it takes awareness and resolve. It may also require a break from mass media. We tend to seek out news articles that validate our own opinions, our own sense of “rightness.” And this is easy to do. You can always find someone with a similar opinion. But reading about it or watching TV news obsessively only reinforces our sense of anger, outrage, and the amount of negative energy that we contribute to the situation. This cycle of seeking out validating information can become an addiction:  not to the news, and not to a “cause.” Instead, it’s an addiction to feeling “right.” We can become very angry with people who do not validate this feeling.

So in a world where people need to be right, is anyone right? We really want to believe so. Our egos really want to believe so. But no one is.

Truth, right, and wrong are all subjective. For some people, war is wrong—end of story. But for other people, war is a rational response to violent provocation. For others, war is a reasonable way to ensure economic security. Are all of these points of view wrong?

Yes. And no.

The answer depends on your point of view in this great dream that we are having in which we are all separate. In our dream, we disagree. We go about things differently. We see the world differently. But we’re still all One being, all God. And part of God can’t be wrong. Likewise, a single soul’s perspective does not reflect the entire truth of God, so no one person is right. In spirit, there are no “sides.”

This has implications, of course. No religion is right or wrong. No political belief is right or wrong. No opinions are right or wrong. And there is no such thing as duality, because so-called opposites (such as good and evil) don’t really exist. There is only the Oneness of God.

How do we live this? Intellectual understanding is all well and good, and that is always the first step. But to know something fully and truly live it requires emotional understanding. It means integrating what we’ve learned into our emotional body so that it can become part of our behavioral patterns. This requires practice.

When someone disagrees with you, try to place yourself in their energy and see with their eyes. From their perspective, you can at least understand how they believe that what they are saying is right. Then let it go. You can also remind yourself that no one—no political figure or anyone else—wakes up in the morning and says, “I want to be the baddest, most evil person I can be.” No one does that. They may be deluding themselves, they may be unhealed, they may even be mentally ill, but everyone acts out of their belief that what they are doing is right.

Another challenge is raising our children with the knowledge that no one is right. This involves helping them to be discriminating without being judgmental. A fine line, that. Archangel Metatron suggests that we teach our children to see how subjective right and wrong are. For example, burping at the table is considered rude in America, but it is a compliment to the chef in Japan. It depends on your point of view. The trick with children is to make them see that it’s not about right and wrong, but about choices that are safe and healthy versus choices that are unsafe and unhealthy.

None of this means you or your family can’t have a code of ethics. We can, and we can encourage our children to develop their own sense of them. What it does mean is that we shouldn’t judge others because their values are different from our own. We must respect their right to make their own choices. For example, in your house, you may choose to be kind to animals and people, to eat all of your meals together as a family, and to live joyfully. Others may choose similar—or very different—values.

So why bother with any of this? It’s comforting when others are wrong (thus making you right), and it’s certainly the easiest road. There are, of course, many reasons why you might bother. For one, right and wrong is a method of dividing God, of separating two or more people, or groups. You can’t be One with God if your ego is busy dividing what God is.

Another reason is to have peace. If you’re not constantly warring with others about what is right and wrong, you can let go of anger. When you let go of anger, you can find peace. Imagine what could happen if the Israelis and Palestinians stopped believing that they were right, while the other was wrong. Imagine what the U.S. as a nation could do without party divisions and finger-pointing. Imagine what you could accomplish as an individual if you weren’t expending your energy on right and wrong.

There is a saying, “It takes two to make a knot.” So stop pulling. Drop your end. The other party will end up with a slackened bit of string and be unable to make any knot at all.

Psychic Warfare: When Our Thoughts Cause Harm

Block Psychic AttacksFor many people, psychic warfare is the stuff of science fiction and comic books. Superheroes do it, but real people do not. Unfortunately, this is not true.

Our thoughts are powerful enough to create our reality. Our mind and our emotions are our creative tools given to us by the Divine, and we are free to use them however we wish. But most people use these tools unconsciously. Are you aware of the reality you create every second? Even knowing logically that your thoughts are this powerful, you probably don’t go about your daily life thinking consciously about the reality you are creating in every moment. It would be hard to do. More likely, you think about it occasionally—during meditation, in the shower, or just before bed.

Likewise, we engage in psychic battles with one another without even being aware that we are doing so. We don’t see it that way; we don’t define it that way; we do it unconsciously. However, ignorance is never a good excuse, so consider how you use your thoughts and how they affect others.

Emotion Intensifies Psychic Energy

We tend to think of ourselves as isolated in our bodies, thinking secret thoughts and feelings that never go any further than our own heads and hearts. We forget that we live in a universe in which everything, everywhere, is really just one great being, and everyone impacts everything else. When we think and feel loving, compassionate, kind thoughts, it impacts the whole in a positive way. Likewise, when we have angry, unkind, or bitter thoughts and feelings, these have an impact, too.

Let’s say you get really angry at someone. You may think all kinds of things about the person while you are angry, which you may regret at a later time when you’ve cooled off. Emotion is the intensifier of our thoughts. It is an incredibly important part of creation, whether positive or negative. You know the power of surging love and joy, both for yourself and the people around you. Anger, jealousy, and bitterness also intensify our thoughts and sharpen our creative powers, just in a negative way. So while you are in the heat of anger, you may think vindictive or judgmental thoughts, which are aimed at the person you are angry at. In moments like these, you are sending energy to that person.

When our negative emotions and thoughts are aimed at a person, they can embed themselves in the person’s energy field like daggers and swords. Once there, they can be removed, but this generally only happens if the affected person visits a healer who finds them, or if they become aware of being attacked and ask the angels or other spirit guides for help on their own behalf. Daggers can affect a person’s mood, well-being, and can also cause physical illness if they are not removed.

How to Heal a Psychic Attack

We are human beings, and we have all thrown our share of daggers, but we can do something about it. The answer is not to stop feeling your negative emotions. This is not possible, and if you try, you will only stuff them, which will hurt you. Feel your emotions, but learn to monitor your thoughts. You are going to be angry at someone from time to time. When you get to that place, own your anger—it’s YOUR feeling and YOUR responsibility. If you feel you have thrown some daggers, see them and transmute them to flowers. Send loving thoughts to the person. You have the power to create and send daggers, but you also have the power to recall them or change them into something positive. Use it.

You will also find yourself the target of a few daggers and swords yourself. If you suspect that you have some daggers—and you can probably sense easily enough who threw them—ask Archangel Michael to help you. Help him by visualizing where it is and seeing it being removed. If you know who your power animal is, ask them to help as well. Or you can get an energy healer to help you with this process. Remember, though, when we remove daggers, we don’t want to send them back to the thrower. We want the daggers to be taken away to a place where they won’t harm anyone. Archangel Michael will do this for you. All you have to do is ask.

Psychic Cording

Another aspect of psychic warfare is called cording. When we are involved in relationships, we energetically loop with others. Sometimes we do this in healthy ways; sometimes we do this in unhealthy ways. For example, you probably have cords of love between you and your family members. These can never be broken. But there are likely some unhealthy cords as well. There may be cords of control—you want someone to act or be a certain way, or they expect that of you. Or there could be cords of mistrust or jealousy. Think of all the ways that human beings can interact and feel, and you can think of a cord that could exist between people.

While daggers are generally a one-way show—someone is throwing them at you, or you are throwing them at another person—cords require a bit of cooperation on both sides. Growing up, we get used to the way certain energy cords feel, even if they are negative. So we unconsciously seek out people who will cord with us in that way. It’s a give and take. However, once you begin to recognize the cords and to heal them, you will change the entire dynamic in your relationships.

Let’s say that you are in a controlling relationship. The pattern goes like this: you want to do something, and your partner doesn’t want you to. The partner digs into their bag of energetic tricks and employs the techniques with which they have successfully manipulated you in the past. Perhaps this means a guilt trip, or putting you down. Instead of responding to these attempts the way you have in the past, you decide to stop engaging in the argument. You stand up for yourself, and that is that. You decide to no longer feel guilty or unworthy, and you take your power back and do whatever it is that you need to do to make yourself happy. You have then changed the dynamic between you, and you can energetically step back from the situation and view it from another place. You can even envision that unhealthy cord between you being cut, or you can ask Archangel Michael to do this.

When you cut cords or stop looping negatively with another person, expect that person to put up a fight. They don’t want the dynamic to change. It will feel uncomfortable to them. By changing the energy on your end, you suddenly feel unfamiliar to them, and they will do whatever it takes to get that “old feeling” back again. Resist the urge to reengage, and energetically move on.

Even when you cut negative cords, however, they can regrow. They may regrow on your end, on the other person’s end, or both. Make a practice of asking Archangel Michael to cut cords and remove daggers for you. Over time, it will get easier to detach from negative people and situations and to have compassion for them. This process is most challenging for the people we are closest to, but view all such challenges as the healing opportunities they are. Eliminating psychic warfare in your closest relationships will only strengthen them. However, if you find that some people cannot let go of the need for psychic battles, then the relationship will change for the highest good of everyone involved.

Psychic Attack Protection

You can give yourself some protection from the energetic slings and arrows of others. Envelop yourself in all dimensions with protective violet light, and request that the angels protect you. You can come up with a short, simple request that you make you daily or as needed, and the angels will respond immediately. Most importantly, however, don’t beat yourself up if you find that you’ve been throwing a few daggers around. What’s important is that you become aware of it and turn that dagger into something loving instead. By being conscious, you can make loving contributions to yourself and the world every day.

Star Seeds and Soul Family

Finding Soul Family


A lot of people in spiritual circles will talk about “star seeds,” and many may say they are one, which is true. I think that what doesn’t get said is that absolutely everyone is a star seed, so it’s probably kind of silly to use the term at all.

Where Do We Come From?

Of course, the main answer here would be the Divine Creator, or “God,” but in terms of the souls that become physical human beings, we all come from other worlds.

When we think of life on other planets, we usually think of third-dimensional life forms, probably carbon-based, with cells, DNA, and a heartbeat or something. However, most life is in the higher dimensions, which we cannot see (unless you are open to your psychic abilities). So, yes, there are Martians, and Sirians, and Pleiadians, etc., and some of them decided to come into this lower dimension to experience spiritual growth. Given that most people think of “Heaven” as being the place where they attain the most spiritual growth, this may sound odd, but this world is an incredible catalyst for growth, which is why we chose to come here.

Soul Family

The universe is like a fractal: there are patterns within patterns. Your body is a microcosm of the universe: it contains galaxies, suns, and planets. Your cells are a microcosm of your body. And so on.

We appear to be here in this third-dimensional world, but we are also present in a higher-dimensional reality with our soul family on another world. For example, some come from the Sirius system, which is sixth-dimensional. We have family on these other worlds, too, and they have been our family for longer than we have been reincarnating on Earth.

To be sure, we exist at higher frequencies, too. We are our Higher Selves, after all. And then there is God, whom we’ve never left at all while we had all these fractal dreams in the Universe.

What Other Worlds?

So, where do we all come from? From all over, really, but here are some of the major areas:


Sirians and Pleiadians, along with the Archangels and other entities, are the two main groups who created this world. Sirians tend to be intellectual with a strong emotional component. Also, they can be great sluts (and I mean that word in its finest, best sense—it’s a good word in our house): food sluts, wine sluts, chocolate sluts, and, of course, sex sluts, too. Sirians can be pretty big (they are quite tall at home), in part due to their enjoyment of sensual pleasures.


Pleiadians, from the “Seven Sisters” star group of the same name, tend to be sensitive, emotional, empathic, and nurturing—sometimes to a fault. Pleiadians must take care that they learn to receive as well as give.

Akitares (Blue Planet)

We just say “Blue Planet” because it’s hard to recall the name. This is a planet in the Pleiades, but Blue Planet folks are pretty different from Pleiadians. First, they are incredibly sensitive. They are so sensitive, emotionally and psychically, that it can be very hard for them to function in this world. It’s very common for Blue Planet people to develop neuroses and other coping mechanisms. They instinctively just want to love everything unconditionally and show you their soft underbelly, but it doesn’t take much to wound them. As a result, they just want to hide, and it can be very, very difficult to get to know the real person behind the defenses. Also, in my experience, they can be very self-deprecating and seldom give themselves any credit.


All of the science-fictional stories about invaders from Mars come from the mass consciousness, which does indeed remember when the Martians arrived. Long ago, they appeared in Atlantis, and they were given a place on the continent to live. The fall of Atlantis is due in part to one of their experiments, which is still active in the world today, but will be healed. Martians tend to be logical to a fault, dislike emotional displays and often repress their own emotions, dislike people and social situations, and have a hard time with spiritual matters—often, they are atheists/skeptics, or they involve themselves with religion in a structured, or even didactic, way. They also really want to be loved, but they have a hard time expressing this need or accepting it for themselves.


Arcturans are a bit harder to characterize, but I’ll try. They are very adaptable to other influences (Sirian, etc.), but they are pretty influential themselves—family members who are not Arcturan can easily pick up Arcturan energy. They tend to be fascinated with darkness and are wont to explore this in themselves. They also tend to be loners. Arcturans came on the scene somewhere along the way—sort of like, “Hey! That looks like fun! I’m going to try it.”

Finding Soul Family

How do you find your soul family? They will find you, because you are supposed to find each other. You have a a soul contract to find each other. Now, that being said, they may show up in the form of your blood family. And they may not. If you’ve felt like you were born into a foreign tribe (are you sure I wasn’t adopted?) all your life, then your soul family is probably going to come in the form of friends, mentors, and partners. The mentor is especially significant—someone who takes you under your wing and gives you the benefit of their leadership and wisdom to show you the path. Many mentors are soul family.

What About Ascended Masters and Teachers?

Ascended Masters are, by definition, ascended, so they don’t come from a world any more. They’ve transcended them. However, beings from other worlds (our soul family and others) do come here to help us. Not all UFOs are the Greys. Yes, they exist, and they have their own agenda, but it’s a pretty small affair. UFOs vary with the driver.

So, yes, Sirians, Pleiadians, and others, are here all the time to help us. We’re their family, after all. Wouldn’t you help your family?

Our next-door neighbors also come to help us. The Hathors are from Venus, and it’s not named for the goddess of Love for nothing. They are very loving beings who are experts in sound and illusion. Their presence was known in ancient Egypt, where the goddess Hathor taught alongside certain Sirians (who appeared in their true form) such as Isis, Osiris, and Horus.

Other beings have been here, and are still here, even though they are ascended and we cannot see them. For example, dragons played a huge part in the beginning of the world. They are powerful, powerful Light beings from Draco. It’s my theory that constellations are not named for an animal particularly because of their shape. Instead, I think the names of constellations tie in to the types of beings that call it home. Because dragons come from Draco, the ancients characterized it thus. This also explains why it’s such a reach to draw a figure in the constellations. The image wasn’t the primary reason for the name.

What About Darker Entities?

Certainly, darker entities exist and seek to push their own agenda. Many would describe them as “evil,” but bear in mind that they, too, are part of God and are just as beloved. They are dark, however, out of ignorance and not choosing to evolve back to Light. There is no need to fear dark entities; Love really does conquer all. But it’s good to have an awareness of them and be informed, as with anything.

Opening the Heart

Follow Your Heart by Asha HawkesworthYou can read all of the books about spirituality, you can take all of the workshops, and you can discuss what you learn with all of your friends for years, but true spiritual understanding will not come until your heart is truly open, and it can communicate with your head. Intellectual understanding is not a bad thing, and it is often the first step on the path. But in order to progress, we must take it further. We must integrate our mental knowledge with our emotional selves. We must know it in our heart.

What does it mean to have an open heart? Most people believe that their hearts are open, when in fact they are barricaded in some way. This doesn’t mean that people aren’t kind or loving. It just means that they are still protecting themselves by shielding their hearts from the things that they believe will hurt them emotionally. Everyone learns to do this; it’s our natural defense mechanism. Our challenge, however, is to un-learn it.

Fear makes us close our heart: fear of rejection, fear of being wrong, fear of failure, fear of ridicule, fear of not being loved or lovable. If we fear that we are not lovable—and most of us do at one time or another—we internalize it and come to believe that it is true: we aren’t lovable. Our heart closes some more, as we try to keep out anything or anyone that we believe will threaten this view of the world or reinforce this belief by rejecting us. In effect, we close our heart to make our world a smaller and “safer” place.

Erecting barriers to others does not make you any safer, but it will isolate you and cut you off from other people. It is certainly possible to have so many barriers in your heart that your own spouse and children don’t have a way in. This is not unusual, but it does have painful consequences for everyone involved. When we close our heart, we fool ourselves into thinking that we’re keeping all of the painful emotions away, but they are still there. And worse still, if we maintain this lock on our heart, love can’t find a way in.

Love is the only healer that there is. It is the only thing that exists. It is our connection with Source, with each other, it is literally who we are. When we put roadblocks in the way of it, we inhibit our connection with God and with who we really are. To heal, we must find the barriers to love and remove them, thereby opening our hearts. Of course, if this were an easy thing to do, we wouldn’t need all of the books, workshops, and friendly discussions with our friends. But we do, because the process of opening our heart can feel very painful at first. Why?

When we begin to open our heart, we must allow ourselves to feel everything, including the painful emotions we’d really prefer to forget. But painful emotions don’t go away because we wish they would. They stick around in our subconscious and in our bodies until we allow ourselves to express them and feel them. So the first step to opening our heart is to reconnect with our emotions.

Once we have reclaimed our emotions, we can work on breaking down the barriers we’ve erected over the years. This is not going to happen all at once. Healing is a process, and it’s important that you be gentle with yourself. Opening the heart isn’t just about loving others; it’s primarily about loving yourself so that you can give that love to others. Paradoxically, when we begin to open our hearts and let love in, it can hurt. Love is intense and powerful, and we’re just not used to it. We have to become comfortable with feeling love, with living love. This, too, is a process.

When we open our heart, we are expanding ourselves. We are removing self-imposed limitations on who we are, how our reality looks, and what love really is. This requires us to stretch far beyond the borders of our comfort zone, which can be pretty scary at first. As with anything, however, practice brings comfort and confidence, and eventually our fears fade into nothing, which is all they really are—nothing.

Opening the heart leaves us feeling vulnerable at first. We worry that someone will “get to us” or hurt us. But as we journey toward our true center, the heart, we find our strength and power, not weakness. What is weakness? Is it knowing and understanding our Oneness, our personal power? Or is it living in fear behind our limitations?

When our heart is open, it can work in harmony with our head. Our mind is not the ruler of our heart, or vice versa. They must work together and balance one another, but this can only happen if our heart is open. When we reach this place, we can communicate from the heart, and we can heal ourselves, our society, and the earth. There are people alive today who still know how to do this, who still know the language of the heart. Often, they are described as “primitive,” or unadvanced, but the truth is that they are our teachers. They know, and they remember.

Opening our heart isn’t something that is idyllic or that “would be nice.” It is imperative. Our future, our survival, our happiness, and our joy depend on it. Let go of your fear and find where your true freedom is.

Letting Go of Violence

Match FlameIf you ask most people what violence is, you will probably hear a definition that includes physical force. Physical abuse, assault, and rape may spring to mind. While all of these things are indeed expressions of violence, there are more subtle expressions as well, including behavior that most of us don’t consider to be violent at all. As we ascend in consciousness, we have to look at these other expressions of violence so that we can recognize them, and therefore heal them.

The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language includes an interesting definition of violence that can help us to understand what it is: “abusive or unjust exercise of power.” Let’s explore this definition in society first.

People in society can do violence to you by trying to deny your voice. This includes trying to suppress your right to free speech, banning your writing or music, or firing you for being a whistleblower. In other words, officials in power can do violence to us by infringing our rights. This is a familiar enough concept. How might this play out on an everyday, personal level?

Do the people in our lives have power over us? Of course they do. We may give them too much power, as in the case of a child who tries to please a domineering parent. Or we may give them a more appropriate level of power, as in the case of a child who, while still hoping to please the parent, has retained enough of their own power to be comfortable making their own decisions. When we love someone, that person has power over our heart: we want them to love us back, unconditionally. When we respect someone, that person has power over our will: we want their good opinion. Finally, when we fear someone, that person has power over our whole being, because we will do anything to avoid what we fear. The kind of power that we allow others to have over us will determine to what extent we are affected by any violence that they might do to us.

Can we do violence to each other even in loving or respectful relationships? Yes—even unconsciously and unintentionally. The people in our lives have power, and, being human, they may abuse that power from time to time. As in the societal example, the people we love may try to muffle our voice, because we are saying things they don’t want to hear. They may try to change things in us that make them uncomfortable. They may attempt to goad or coerce us into doing things that they want us to do, even if it’s not in our best interests, or it’s something we don’t want for ourselves. These are all forms of violence.

Violence occurs when people try to impose their will—their ego—on another. This can manifest as physical (hitting, restraining), emotional (neglect, conditional love), mental (verbal abuse, lack of support, passive/aggressive behavior), and spiritual (repression and denial of true self, attempting to “mold”). In broader society, any group that tries to impose its will or way of thinking on other people—regardless of any good intentions—is inflicting violence on others. Likewise, any loved one who tries to impose their will or way of thinking onto you—by manipulating, being passive/aggressive, threatening to withhold love—is being violent to you.

So, if violence can be defined as imposing your will on others, won’t we have anarchy? Where do you draw the line? What about laws against theft or murder? Are the laws violent because they impose the lawmakers’ will on thieves and murderers?

There is a fine line between doing violence to others and being true to the higher good. Laws that seek to limit or prevent physical violence aren’t necessarily bad. However, when society tries to limit violence by inflicting more violence, it only breeds more of the same. If you want to limit violence in a society or in a relationship, you behave in a non-violent way. Violence is an illness, and we must have compassion for those who are still mired in it.

So, the way to deal with violence in a non-violent way is to practice unconditional love. Unconditional love comes from the Divine and frees us from fear. Conditional love comes from a place of fear. Violence, therefore, is bred of fear.

How do we arrive at unconditional love for others? We start with ourselves. We cannot truly love others until we love all that is perfect and imperfect in ourselves. We have to stop loving ourselves conditionally and start loving ourselves unconditionally.

When we love ourselves conditionally, we do terrible violence to ourselves. Are you a perfectionist, beating yourself up every day for not being able to adhere to an unrealistic ideal? Do you push yourself continually to do things “you have to do” without giving yourself a break? Do you tell yourself that you’re not good enough, unworthy, or bad? Do you think you’re fat, ugly, and unlovable? Are you unable to forgive yourself for an incident that occurred in the past? These are all forms of violence that we do to ourselves, everyday. If we can’t stop being violent with ourselves, how can we possibly stop being violent with others?

Ah, but how do we begin? How do we shed this legacy of violence in our world? We will; we must; it is time. But let’s not be violent to ourselves in the process. Enter into this process with forgiveness for yourself. You are not going to reach a state of unconditional love overnight, or even in a month or a year. It is a process that may last all of your life. The journey is as important as the destination.

If at all possible, find someone to help you reach your goal of self-love. It may be a trusted friend or mentor, a support group, or a counselor. Whoever you pick must be able to be objective with you. You can solicit feedback from loved ones who make you feel safe and who will be honest with you, but they are probably too close to you to guide you through the process.

As you travel the road to self-love, you will learn new ways to talk to yourself and about yourself. You will gradually be able to let go of old, violent patterns. You will learn to forgive yourself. You will learn that you matter. You have a voice. You are a divine spark who is just as important as any other divine spark. When you reach a place of understanding and love for yourself, you will not give your power away to others indiscriminately. You will be able to love, respect, and be open and vulnerable with others, and yet remain safe, because you know and trust your own heart and mind.

Violence is a two-way street. We do it to ourselves and to others; we allow others to do it to us when we give them too much power. But the buck stops here. We can stop the violence, but we must begin with ourselves. As we heal, others will begin to heal, producing an unstoppable chain reaction. We won’t help others to heal through force, but we will help them to heal when we lead by example.