Who is Right?

The Cheshire cat and Alice

Recent events in our world have caused huge divisions among people, and most of us choose a side. We believe that we have chosen the “right” side, which must mean that the other side is “wrong.” But no one’s right if everybody’s wrong, to quote Buffalo Springfield. By choosing a side, we give energy to negativity—even though our “side” may be saying, “Hey, let’s have world peace, let’s not attack any one, let’s not return violence with violence, let’s help those who are less fortunate.” And it’s okay to believe in that; that can be your truth. Believing in the possibility of world peace is not a problem in itself.

Many people say that they want world peace and harmony, and yet they feed conflict. It isn’t obvious at the time. It’s done unconsciously, and it happens when we mentally choose a side and enter into the energetic push/pull of duality and division, which we do as naturally as waking up in the morning. But by taking a side, we devalue other human beings and pass judgment. We say, “You are wrong, because you are advocating something that I really don’t like.” And when that something is violence, war, or even lack of health care coverage, it can be really hard not to choose sides. However, in choosing sides, we create a division within ourselves and allow anger to fester. We can’t promote peace with anger; it just can’t be done. So now, instead of being peaceful, we become angry and project that anger onto others. In short, we become part of the problem.

Anger and the drive to take sides can be healed, but it takes awareness and resolve. It may also require a break from mass media. We tend to seek out news articles that validate our own opinions, our own sense of “rightness.” And this is easy to do. You can always find someone with a similar opinion. But reading about it or watching TV news obsessively only reinforces our sense of anger, outrage, and the amount of negative energy that we contribute to the situation. This cycle of seeking out validating information can become an addiction:  not to the news, and not to a “cause.” Instead, it’s an addiction to feeling “right.” We can become very angry with people who do not validate this feeling.

So in a world where people need to be right, is anyone right? We really want to believe so. Our egos really want to believe so. But no one is.

Truth, right, and wrong are all subjective. For some people, war is wrong—end of story. But for other people, war is a rational response to violent provocation. For others, war is a reasonable way to ensure economic security. Are all of these points of view wrong?

Yes. And no.

The answer depends on your point of view in this great dream that we are having in which we are all separate. In our dream, we disagree. We go about things differently. We see the world differently. But we’re still all One being, all God. And part of God can’t be wrong. Likewise, a single soul’s perspective does not reflect the entire truth of God, so no one person is right. In spirit, there are no “sides.”

This has implications, of course. No religion is right or wrong. No political belief is right or wrong. No opinions are right or wrong. And there is no such thing as duality, because so-called opposites (such as good and evil) don’t really exist. There is only the Oneness of God.

How do we live this? Intellectual understanding is all well and good, and that is always the first step. But to know something fully and truly live it requires emotional understanding. It means integrating what we’ve learned into our emotional body so that it can become part of our behavioral patterns. This requires practice.

When someone disagrees with you, try to place yourself in their energy and see with their eyes. From their perspective, you can at least understand how they believe that what they are saying is right. Then let it go. You can also remind yourself that no one—no political figure or anyone else—wakes up in the morning and says, “I want to be the baddest, most evil person I can be.” No one does that. They may be deluding themselves, they may be unhealed, they may even be mentally ill, but everyone acts out of their belief that what they are doing is right.

Another challenge is raising our children with the knowledge that no one is right. This involves helping them to be discriminating without being judgmental. A fine line, that. Archangel Metatron suggests that we teach our children to see how subjective right and wrong are. For example, burping at the table is considered rude in America, but it is a compliment to the chef in Japan. It depends on your point of view. The trick with children is to make them see that it’s not about right and wrong, but about choices that are safe and healthy versus choices that are unsafe and unhealthy.

None of this means you or your family can’t have a code of ethics. We can, and we can encourage our children to develop their own sense of them. What it does mean is that we shouldn’t judge others because their values are different from our own. We must respect their right to make their own choices. For example, in your house, you may choose to be kind to animals and people, to eat all of your meals together as a family, and to live joyfully. Others may choose similar—or very different—values.

So why bother with any of this? It’s comforting when others are wrong (thus making you right), and it’s certainly the easiest road. There are, of course, many reasons why you might bother. For one, right and wrong is a method of dividing God, of separating two or more people, or groups. You can’t be One with God if your ego is busy dividing what God is.

Another reason is to have peace. If you’re not constantly warring with others about what is right and wrong, you can let go of anger. When you let go of anger, you can find peace. Imagine what could happen if the Israelis and Palestinians stopped believing that they were right, while the other was wrong. Imagine what the U.S. as a nation could do without party divisions and finger-pointing. Imagine what you could accomplish as an individual if you weren’t expending your energy on right and wrong.

There is a saying, “It takes two to make a knot.” So stop pulling. Drop your end. The other party will end up with a slackened bit of string and be unable to make any knot at all.

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